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It might surprise some to learn that I listen to Sean Hannity in the car, and it might be even more surprising that I get something out of his show and sometimes find myself agreeing with his points — with a few caveats. I will not listen today, waiting until he cools off a little to state his arguments clearly.

So interested was a modern gentleman in the Supreme Court’s decision regarding the Affordable Care Act, he could not sleep, rising early to doze through a painful, yet much-hyped, interview between Ann Curry and Matthew McConaughey and watch Pete Williams struggle to be a reporter.

Still, he got the headline: The court did what the court was intended to do and adhered to the principle of stare decisis, exhibiting restraint and providing an example to all during politically tumultuous times.


When Harry Met Sally

Nora Ephron died yesterday, leaving a legacy of honest and hilarious works.

What I’m saying is – and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form – is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.

— Harry Burns (Billy Crystal)

A modern gentleman agrees with the sentiment.

In his experience, a long-lasting friendship between a man and a woman is doomed from the start because it’s based on dishonesty or ignorance. Either the man or the woman — and it’s sometimes mutual — is attracted to the other but fears or even experiences rejection and settles for a safer route, endeavoring to maintain a non-sexual relationship with a person with whom they enjoy spending time.

But this is not a route at all, it’s a fork. While it may be a perfectly lovely fork, featuring lush trees and an antique road sign, that never wants for company as others pass through, it’s a fork.

Or, in memory of Nora Ephron, it’s being stuck in the second act of “When Harry Met Sally,” and it’s ultimately best for the personal growth of everyone to make a choice and move along.


Tim Allen probably could have sold you and me quaaludes and other drugs in the ’70s, especially if we lived in western Michigan.

Although a modern gentleman begrudges Tim Allen the “comedy” and success of Home Improvement, The Santa Clause and Last Man Standing, he will acknowledge that Tim Allen takes a great mugshot, looking calm, mustachioed and Instagram‘d in the face of drug trafficking charges.

A modern gentleman hopes that when he is arrested, at least his mugshot will be something he can be proud of.

Modern Gentlemen …

… resented a recent publicly shaming, until they realized their friends had points and appreciated the honest assessments of their behavior.


I hope some day to be as quotable as Yogi Berra.

If you declare, with indignation, that ‘there is a lady/gentleman present,’ there isn’t.

— Nichol Caddingham


I am in Europe for an extended vacation.

While I am away, please catch up on my previous posts.

Modern Gentlemen …

… — of Jane Austen’s characters — most identify with Colonel Christopher Brandon of Sense and Sensibility.

Brandon (played by Alan Rickman in the 1995 film version) ends up with Marianne Dashwood (Kate Winslet) but is considered by most, according to the charming John Willoughby, to be “the sort of man everyone speaks well of, but no one remembers to talk to.”