When Harry Met Sally
What I’m saying is – and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form – is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
— Harry Burns (Billy Crystal)
A modern gentleman agrees with the sentiment.
In his experience, a long-lasting friendship between a man and a woman is doomed from the start because it’s based on dishonesty or ignorance. Either the man or the woman — and it’s sometimes mutual — is attracted to the other but fears or even experiences rejection and settles for a safer route, endeavoring to maintain a non-sexual relationship with a person with whom they enjoy spending time.
Or, in memory of Nora Ephron, it’s being stuck in the second act of “When Harry Met Sally,” and it’s ultimately best for the personal growth of everyone to make a choice and move along.